Wednesday, April 18, 2018

Friends

This post is sponsored. 
Anyone who knows me even a little knows that my friends are so important to me. I’ve been so lucky to have so many amazing meaningful friendships(some for a season and some for a lifetime). Friendship takes effort and meaningful friendships are worth the effort.


How to Build More Meaningful Friendships
By Christine H.

The rise of technology, and especially the mashup of tech and social interaction, has made an interesting dilemma in our modern relationships. Many professionals say that over-reliance on social media and tech-enabled communication like texting has made ours a socially-retarded generation.

Well, I think that’s pretty harsh. And I don’t really think it’s true. But at the same time, I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s noticed that having 600 friends on Facebook isn’t the same as always having a friend ready to go out with you on a Friday night. Or perhaps more importantly, someone to call when you desperately need to talk something out. Our interconnected world can feel increasingly isolated. I think in some ways, the ease of contacting and overlapping with so many people at any given moment makes us forget to value the people we have close to us. For example, why invest in your existing romantic relationship when all it takes is a swipe on your smartphone to find 20 more likely candidates? Why work through a fight that you’ve had with a friend when there are so many other people that you could reach out to the next time that you need help with something? And why make yourself vulnerable to the person just down the hall when you could discuss what’s on your mind anonymously and maintain the perfect image that you’ve worked so hard to present to the world?

The art of friendship is nuanced and individual. However, the magic of human connection is not to be underplayed. In the end, it might be the most important thing that any of us have. And so, if you’re someone who’s tired of artificial and surface-level interactions, consider these ideas for deepening and building important relationships--especially friendships--in your life.

  • Do things together: Experiences bond us together, and when you get outside of your comfort zone, you learn more about yourself, and others than you ever would inside of the safe realm. Many of us wait around hoping to be invited to things, but it doesn’t occur to us that everyone else is doing the exact same thing. Take it on yourself to be the one to plan and coordinate events. Subscribe to and ask about events in your community and at your favorite venues. Set up excursions to interesting places. In fact, why not put together a weekend road trip like one of these?
  • Spend one-on-one talking time: Group friends aren’t the same as individual friends. For example, there might be someone that you consider a good friend because you see them a lot at group outings. However, when you find that you’re alone together, you don’t really have much to say. I think this is one of the most common reasons that we lose touch with others. Friend groups are always changing--people move away, marry or divorce, have children, or get busy with other interests. If you don’t have individual connections with people when the group evolves, you might find yourself feeling pretty lonely. Instead, seek to establish personal connections with those that you come in contact with. Learn more about them individually, and learn about what you have in common. Embrace opportunities to talk one-on-one. And when you do talk…

  • Be honest, and make yourself vulnerable: Far too often, we put on a personality that we think people want to see. However, an honest connection can never happen until we’re willing to show who we really are, warts and all. Share things about yourself that signal to the other person that it’s safe for them to also share vulnerabilities. It can be scary to really be seen by someone else, but that’s also what makes a good friendship worthwhile. These moments when we’re able to admit that we need help are what make the difference between a casual acquaintance and an actual friend group that can act as a support group, whatever we’re going through.
  • Match emotional and time investment: Many of us feel short changed when we end up in relationships where the attachment seems to be one-sided. It can be exhausting when we feel like we’re putting in all the effort ourselves. Building a friendship is a process, and it happens in small increments along the way. Be generous, but remember not to demand more from someone than they’re ready to give.

  • Recognize and appreciate different people’s contributions: Good friends are not going to be good at all the same things that you are. They’re not going to always value the same things, or make the same choices that you would. However, it takes all types to make a world. The whole point of friendship is to meet each other in both our weaknesses and strengths. Often, the best friendships are ones that teach us balance. Friends are able to share strengths that you need in your life, and you’re able to contribute with your own strengths that they don’t have.
  • Learn to say I’m sorry: Disagreements, and moments when we hurt each other, are unavoidable in a close relationship. I think that we’re missing out on the best parts of interpersonal relationships when we don’t learn how to weather those difficult times and see things through anyway. “I’m sorry” doesn’t always mean “I’m wrong and you’re right.” No relationship should rely on two people always seeing exactly eye to eye. Rather, “I’m sorry” can often mean “This relationship is more important to me than my pride.”
  • Don’t underestimate old friends: Our lives are always changing, and so our relationships will as well. Sometimes, we grow distant from people who used to seem essential for our very survival. I don’t think that it’s always a bad thing. For example, after you got married, your tightness with your group of girlfriends probably evolved, since your spouse was now the person that you brought the ups and downs of your life to. That being said, it’s important to know the value of an old friend; a person who knew you as you were, saw you through challenges and changes. When you get the chance to reconnect, and when you recognize that you need to reclaim that part of your life, be open to rebuilding those channels as needed.

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Monday, April 9, 2018

Southern spring break 2018

Last year I very intentionally made no plans for spring break except get things done so this year I made sure to have more fun. I spent the whole week down in St. George. It was the perfect mix of family and friends and also the perfect break. I had zero responsibilities and no opportunity for any. It was great!

I met Chelsea and Jeff and kids for the first half of the week. 



We celebrated Easter with simple baskets and a bbq Easter dinner. Kyle and Robby were in town so the kids spent a lot of time at the park playing with cousins. 

Megan and Eric were in town for Easter so we visited with them Monday morning. We spent time with grandma and grandpa-the main purpose of the trip. 

The kids enjoyed playing basketball outside and the marble game inside. That game has been around since I was a kid. 

We made sure to stop at swig for cookies and drinks. 

It was good to spend time with family for several days. I always wish we lived closer so we could spend even more time together. 

Once they left I met up with Michelle, Tiffany, Sage, and Katie. We played bingo in Mesquite. 

We went to the gym and did some workouts at the park. 

We spent a lot of time in the sun (and sometimes clouds). 

We ate lots of food. 

We went to Kayenta for breakfast and a walk in the labyrinth. 

Tiffany’s mom and aunt came up from Vegas. We had dinner, walked around the temple, and had shaved ice. 


I loved my time with my family and also my time with my friends. It was such a great break, but it is good to get back to routine. 

Thursday, April 5, 2018

Beauty Time Tuesday-March empties 

Essie angora cardi-one of my fave colors 

OPI short story-the perfect Barbie pink

Bath and Body works body cream, hand soap, and lotion-I love all their products and always go back to using them. 

Onyx quick dry-love

Shea moisture cleanser-I felt like I was washing my face with lotion. I probably won’t buy this again. 

Intuition razors-must have 

Lancôme primer-I got this sample with my foundation purchase. I like it. I don’t know if I love it enough to buy it. 

Monday, April 2, 2018

one little word-April


In 2018 I want to fill my life with things and people I LOVE and let things go that I do not love. I want to show more LOVE to others and accept more LOVE. I want my life to be full of LOVE.


I don’t know what happened at he beginning of March, but I never posted. I made goals, but I never talked about them here apparently. 


YEARLY GOALS

*attend temple 12 times✔

*send birthday and other cards monthly✔

*nightly gratitude journal✔ kind of.

*love my body by continuing health and fitness goals✔ 

*monthly savings/budget goal to be more accountable for my spending and save more✔. I started giving myself a fun money budget each time I get paid. I did great with my February budget but got a little off track in March. 


FEBRUARY GOALS

*write down 1 thing I love about myself each day-Candace and I checked in with each other daily and wrote it down. This was such a powerful exercise to come up with 28 things I love about myself. 

*deliberately show love to someone else each day-Showing love to others is much easier and equally powerful.  

*continue to read Loving What Is-read for 5 minutes nightly-I don’t think I did this once. I need to get back to it. 

MARCH GOALS

*100 push-ups/100 squats daily-I did really well Monday-Friday. I sometimes remembered on Saturday and always took Sunday as a rest day. 

*Report 1 gratitude or happiness daily-Candace and I checked in with each other again on this and it kept the month very positive. 

*For lent I gave up saying negative things about myself. It has been so good to be a little kinder and compassionate with myself. 

APRIL GOALS

*record spending for the month

*do something for myself daily 

We are more than 3 months into the new year. Do you set goals? How are they going?

Monday, March 26, 2018

Weekend Happs-High/Low

The weekend was a complete mix of really good and a little less good. My plans for Friday evening got re-scheduled which gave me time to get a few projects done at work. I knew I would be there a little later but planned to leave at a decent time. 


I got a lot done and was happy with my progress. One of the projects was glueing some small pieces of toys together. They are part of a bigger project that really needed to get started. I finished and they are so cute. I stood on the table to take a picture and ended up falling (taking a flying leap) off the table. It was bad and funny at the same time. Since I’m not a limber child anymore it didn’t feel that great, but it could have been much worse. I’m pretty sure it knocked the wind out of me, but I made myself get up pretty quickly. I applied a very generous amount of Doterra Deep Blue and woke up not nearly as sore as I was afraid I would be.


After flying off the table on Friday I was a little afraid I might not be able to run Saturday morning, but luckily I woke up feeling mostly ok. We changed the course a little, but we did my favorite run to Liberty park. Instead of running straight to the park, we ran towards downtown first. We made a little detour to Gilgal park. It is a small park of old stone sculptures. I have never been there and it was really cool to see. We ended up at the park and ran around a bit before getting a ride back to our cars. It was the perfect running weather and such a fun run.


I met Mandi in the afternoon for lunch and wedding dress shopping. She had no idea what she wanted or didn’t want. She looked beautiful in everything. She has been engaged for about a month but seeing her in a wedding dress made it more real. She is going to be such a beautiful bride. I loved sharing that magical experience with her.


After dress shopping I met Tiffany, Sage, and Michelle to celebrate Michelle’s birthday. We had so much fun laughing and talking all the night long. It look a while for our food to get there. We kept ourselves entertained while we waited. Towards the end of dinner, a lady at the table behind us asked Tiffany about her hair. We chatted with them briefly and asked them to take our picture. The server insisted on them being in our picture which made it pretty funny. We took a few more pictures and ended up in Michelle’s car talking for another hour. Time with these girls is always a good time. I left with a very full heart and a burned out headlight.


It was too late to do anything about my headlight on Saturday night since everything was closed. Driving with a burned out headlight doesn’t seem safe so I went to autozone to get it taken care of. The nice lady that helped me purchase the light also installed it for me without me even asking. It made my day that she was so nice. 

I ended up getting food poisoning Sunday afternoon. I wasn’t feeling well for most of the day, but then all of a sudden I was pretty sick. I was supposed to go to a dinner/Easter egg hunt at Alicia and Adam’s, but I obviously didn’t make it to that. I spent the rest of the afternoon and evening in bed. It was not a pleasant rest of the day. Mela suggested activated charcoal, and that seemed to really help. 

Even with the lows of the weekend, it was such a great weekend. Saturday was definitely my favorite. How was your weekend? Any exciting happs?

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Wednesday, March 21, 2018

Recent Happs

March has been a pretty good month-a good mix of fun and down time. 

Mandi and I went up to Ogden to visit Jessi. We called Jen and convinced her to come over too. Jessi made yummy vegan food and we had lots of fun chatting and laughing until way too late. 

We went to the outlets for a little shopping and all ended up with new bags. I was supposed to get a new purse for my birthday so we’ll just call this a belated birthday gift:)

LeAnn’s mom planned a surprise party for her birthday. It’s fun to see the running friends outside of running. 

After several months of paying to get my nose waxed, I decided it made more sense to buy the supplies and do it myself. We were pretty scared, but that didn’t last long. After the initial fear, we became a little obsessed. 

Sharon hosted a breakfast last weekend to celebrate Judy’s birthday. She was surprised and we had a great time catching up with everyone. 



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Tuesday, March 20, 2018

Beauty Time Tuesday-new products 

Now that the bachelor is over, I can get back to talk about beauty on Tuesdays. 


Green color corrrector-my cheeks have been a little rosy lately so I bought the cheapest drugstore brand to drive to offset that. I honestly don’t know if it’s making a difference or not. 

Essie mod squad-my Barbie pink polish was hoppy so I replaced with this color. I love it!

Scrunchies-I can’t believe I bought these, but they really are great for putting my hair up while I sleep. 

Catwalk curls rock-love

L’Oréal self tanning wipes-I was scared to use these, but I finally did. They work really well. My left arm got a little streaky, but other than that they’re a good option for a little color. 


After paying to get my nose waxed several times, I bit the bullet and bought my own stuff. The first time was a little scary until I actually did it. It was so easy and didn’t hurt. This is one of my better recent purchases. 

I got a small sample of Fenty foundation to try and I’m really liking it. I don’t need to buy any right now, but when I do I will probably buy it. 

What else should I try?

Sunday, March 11, 2018

Endure to the End


I have heard the phrase endure to the end basically my entire life. What does that even mean? The word in endure has a little bit of negativity associated with it. It makes me think I am barely surviving. There are moments when we all feel that way, but no one wants to spend their whole life barely making it. This article sponsored by the Mormon Channel answers that question along with tips to do more than barely make it.

What Does It Really Mean to Endure It to The End?

When His disciples asked Him about the future, Jesus often told them parables or referred to the fact that the future was in God’s hands and not something they should worry about. In the book of Matthew, though, He does provide some information for them. He tells them “he that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved (Matthew 24:13).

One message from that chapter is that things aren’t always perfect in this world, but God does have a plan and He wants you to endure to the end. That doesn’t mean silently putting up with problems that seem insurmountable or unacceptable. To endure to the end doesn’t mean simply tolerating life until it’s over – it means facing trials with patience, faith, and even joy, when possible. With Jesus, you can find hope and positivity even in times that may otherwise feel joyless.

Henry B. Eyring provides three helpful suggestions you can use to approach life and endure it, no matter what happens.
1. Pray
Satan wants you to feel hopeless and defeated; he wants you to live without joy or hope, because that makes it more likely you’ll turn from God. God wants us to overcome that hopelessness (D&C 10:5), and prayer is one way to do so. Prayer is also the way you can communicate regularly with God to better understand how you should live your life.

Here are some ways you can rely on God through prayer in times of sadness or loneliness.

  • Talk to Him as you would a friend; you don’t have to specifically ask for anything, and simply sharing your burden can help you feel better.
  • Make it a point to thank God for something real and unique every day; praising and showing gratitude reminds you of the joy that still exists in life.
  • Pray for those who have caused you harm; praying can help you forgive, and forgiveness removes the burden of anger and helps you experience more joy.

2. Keep the commandments
Keeping God’s commandments is a way for you to demonstrate your love for God and others (John 14:15). It also helps ensure you follow God’s will in your life, and remaining within God’s plan is one of the best ways to endure to the end. In Philippians, Paul writes that he can “do all things through Christ which strengtheneth” him (Phil. 4:13), and that verse is true for you too. But that’s only true if you’re acting with Jesus.


3. Serve the Lord
It’s common when facing struggle, stress, or sadness to dwell on those things. That can lead to depression, anxiety, and lack of joy. One way to keep yourself from dwelling on negative things and to actively endure whatever you might face is to serve the Lord. For many people, that means serving others. Some things you might do to serve God and others include:

  • Volunteering in the Church
  • Volunteering in the community
  • Making it a point to call or visit friends or sick community/church members
  • Donating items or money to charities close to your heart
  • Simply talking to others about your struggles and your hope in God


God wants you to be happy and provides a way for you to endure every challenge. Whatever you are called to face, you can endure it — and endure it well. By praying, keeping the commandments, and serving the Lord, you endure challenges hour-by-hour and day-by-day until your time on the earth is finished and God says, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant” (Matt. 25:21, 23).


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