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Monday, September 22, 2014

random rambling...saying thanks

thanks for your patience last week as i stepped away from the blog a little to plan and execute a blogger slumber party. it was so much fun. detailed posts (yes plural) coming soon.
there have been a few you tube videos and other posts going around lately about being a girl. so much of it really resonates with me. i'm about as girly as they come. most of the time i really love being a girl. i love clothes and makeup and shopping and nail polish. i also love taking care of people and making close friends and chatting and chatting for hours.

all of those (and so many more) are great things about being a girl. the inability to accept a compliment however is not so great. why do we have to take every compliment and turn it into something negative???
"that's a cute shirt. ugh it makes me feel fat."
"you have the best laugh. really? i feel like a hyena."
"i love your cookies. i think i should have used more chocolate chips"
you get the idea. most of the time people are pretty genuine with their compliments. they won't say they like your shirt, your laugh, your cookies, etc if they really don't. i've been thinking about this for several years actually. i remember talking about it with a friend years ago, and we made a promise to be better, to accept the compliment with a simple thank you. it's not always easy. saying something negative in response to a compliment is so much easier, but it's not smart.
earlier in the summer i attended a fancy blogger event. everyone looked so good. it was the perfect setting for compliments (and negative responses). i heard so many beautiful girls struggling to accept genuine compliments. i decided right then to try and put a stop to it. i'm not perfect by any means, but i'm trying. 

my goal for the week is to accept every genuine compliment i am given with a simple thank you.
will you join me?


  1. One of my all-time favorite quotes is that quote by Marianne Williamson that is often quoted. One of my favorite parts of that quote is, "Your playing small does not serve the world." She goes on to say that by letting ourselves shine we liberate others to do the same. I love the message of this post and I will try to join you. I've been going through a tough time as I adjust to my new life/body/budget a new mom, but I really want my daughter to feel empowered and I want her to desire to shine. I think that if she's surrounded by women who allow it, she'll be much more likely to follow suit. And you look FABULOUS in the black dress!

  2. I love this post!!! I think it's something that a lot of girls do without even thinking about it, and it's really hard not to fall into that trap.

  3. I think that's a great idea. I think one problem may be that girls don't want to seem arrogant, and would rather be seen as humble, so we second guess ourselves.

  4. I so agree with this! In high school, my friend's mom told me that it is rude to answer a compliment with a negative comment. In some ways it's almost like calling the person a liar. That has stuck with me. I try to remember to say thank you when someone compliments me, even if I don't agree. I am not perfect at this, but I try. Thank you for the reminder to try harder.

  5. can i just say that dress is amazing on you! you look so lovely!!


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