Monday, May 19, 2014

random rambling...not a mom part 2...things you should never say.

as promised last week, I'm back for part 2 of not a mom. before we get to that, a few items of business...
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after we got off this ride at disneyland, karlee asked if people thought i was her mom. i'm sure they did.
i really think people don't mean to be insensitive, but sometimes they just are. i hear some things over and over about being single/not having kids that just aren't the best things to say. in case you've ever wondered what you should or maybe should not say, here are the top 5 things you should never say to someone who isn't a mom.

1. you're so lucky...
yes, i am lucky i get to travel, can spend my money how i want, etc, but telling me i'm so lucky i don't have kids most likely isn't really what you mean and hopefully isn't what you think about your own kids.
2. i'll trade you
i sincerely hope people don't mean they would trade their kids for my latest trip, race, career, or whatever else i just did. i'm pretty sure they don't actually mean that so it's probably best to just not say it. 
3. complain incessantly about your kids, your pregnancy, etc.
i'm sure being sick 24/7 for an indefinite period of time is quite terrible. i'm also sure kids are difficult much of the time. i try to be understanding, but it doesn't always or often work.
4. you're not old
yes, i actually am. if/when i have kids i will automatically be considered high risk due to advanced maternal age. it's just life. it's ok to agree when i express concerns about my age
5. it will happen
i know people mean well, but the truth is, it might not happen.  
maybe i sound bitter, but i promise i'm not. i know people are trying to be nice, but it really is a sensitive subject. my life is really great, but it is also missing some really important things. i still have hope that one day i will be a mom, but in the meantime, try to avoid saying these to me. i don't always have the nicest response.
did i miss anything? what things do you hear that drive you crazy?
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